Would you date yourself?
I know it’s a strange question, but would you date someone like you? Someone with the same attitude as you, outlook on life, passion for your current career, faithfulness to God. Someone who manages money like you do, takes care of themselves like you do, would you? If your looking to get married, it’s important to ask yourselves this question. If you have qualities that you wouldn’t want in a partner, is it really fair to the person you are going to date.
“Take me as I am! That is a statement thrown around that is sometimes used by people who refuse to change….”
I’m not saying you have to be perfect, we all have quirks, that’s what makes us unique. When it comes to core qualities and the way we live our lives, It’s important that we be the best we can possibly be.
Take me as I am! That is a statement thrown around that is sometimes used by people who refuse to change. In no way am I saying that you should change yourself drastically to get someone, but change things that you know deep in your heart would make you a better person.
Do people often comment about your bad attitude? Has your doctor told you that you need to eat healthier? Have you mismanaged money most of your life? Are you always putting yourself down, do you have a negative outlook on life?
“I do not believe in soulmates and I don’t believe God chooses who we are to be with..”
Why should someone put up with a bad attitude, even if you have a reason for why you are the way you are. Have bad relationships in the past caused you to become hardened, if so you need to work on those issues before getting into a relationship.
Making the necessary changes in your life, helps you to know more about yourself and makes it easy for you to identify a great person to date. If you do have all your ducks in a row, it’s very unlikely that you would date someone who is bad for you. We tend to date people based on our insecurities, but if we manage those insecurities, we will date people that are good for us.
I do not believe in soulmates and I don’t believe God chooses who we are to be with. The great Dr. Myles Munroe made this statement, God gave us free will so he can’t tell us who to marry. If he was going to choose anything for us it would be salvation. Salvation is truly more important than marriage. What I do believe is that God tells us what to look for in a partner, like everything in our lives he guides us in the right direction. He shows us things about ourselves that may hinder us from finding someone Good.
“You are God’s beautiful creation and you deserve the best out of this life….”
In this period of “singleness”, God has shown me a lot about myself that needed changing. My negative attitude needed to change, I was always quick to get angry and very irrational. The list was very long and there are still a few things I’m working on. When I started working on these things, I found myself becoming more confident in who I was and confident in who God made me to be.
You have to be active about living out your life, If you want change,makes changes. Do what you know will make you better, FOR YOU! If you choose not to change you will end up settling. Do you have a history of settling? Settling for a person you know is not good for you, settling for any job because it pays the bills. Settling is equal to Giving up, have you given up?
You are God’s beautiful creation and you deserve the best out of this life. Take some time and pray about it. Find out more about what God’s word says about you. He loves you and wants the best for you.
Remember, it is never too late to change, it is never too late to leave a bad relationship, it is never too late to do what is best for you.
God Bless you!