Hurting someone and not even know it

12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command.

John 15:12-14

I Just started writing my second book and It’s a lot more personal than my first. As I started the second chapter I started writing about how a friend’s words hurt me then I realized that I never told them that they hurt me.

It was a situation where I was confiding to this friend about Personal issues and they’re response was filled with judgment. I was so raw as I disclosed these personal details to them and  their words stung like when you touch an open wound.

Instead of saying something right then and there I just swallowed my hurt and moved on. Rather than picking up the phone to tell that person that they hurt me so long ago, I created this blog post.

I feel like there are so many in the same situation and if I were in that situation again I would confront the person in that very moment. That’s the reason why I’m writing this post, if you are going through a similar situation don’t let too much time pass by . Tell your friend that they hurt you, do it with love in your voice.

I write this not only as a victim but also as a perpetrator of hurting people and not knowing it. I’ve been told upfront by friends that I have hurt them with my words or lack thereof. I have also lost one of my best friends because I hurt him so bad with my words.

I can’t take anything back, I can only move forward. I’ve decided to just let the hurt go and forgive my friend because I would hope someone would forgive me if I ever said anything hurtful.

Love on one another always!

Today’s prayer:

Lord we love you! Thank you father for stretching us and making us stronger to be able to withstand hurt and not return the blow. You have lead by example Jesus of why it is better to turn the other cheek than to fight. May we continue to become more like you Lord. 

In Jesus name we pray,





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