I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs–how he can please the Lord
This morning I was on a message board for people who were requesting prayers for different situations. As I made my way through the request something stood out to me, there were many people asking for prayers for a husband/wife and along with their request they stated how frustrated and unhappy they were because of this. I remember feeling like that years ago, so it gripped at my heart as I read their request.
After praying for them I thought of my current situation, I am single(6 years to be exact) but very happy! I DEFINITELY want to get married one day but God showed me years ago why I should be content in my life with or without a partner. Your spouse is not supposed to complete you, you are supposed to enter a marriage as two completely whole people under God.
“Your current frustration with being single will not go away once you find a partner. That frustration will morph into something else….”
Why? Glad you asked. It is not your spouses responsibility to fix every part of your life. They are human and after a while will tire of always helping you. Only God can fully take care of you and sustain you. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t desire a supportive spouse, you definitely should but you should always cast your cares to the Lord.
Marriage is already tough, we see it and hear it everyday. How much harder will it be if you go into it with baggage that you will inevitably dump on your spouse.
Your current frustration with being single will not go away once you find a partner. That frustration will morph into something else. Why exactly are you so frustrated? Are you lonely? Is it your sexual desires? Are you looking at all the happy couples around you? I have the solution to all of these things…. Seek first the Kingdom of God.
“You will be so filled with joy and expectation that you won’t constantly be thinking about Mr/Mrs.right every day…”
There is a reason why God tells us to seek him first. He knows all that we struggle with as singles and is willing and able to help us through them. He is a comforter to the lonely, he shows us how to control our “fleshy” desires and flee temptation.. he tells us to keep our eyes on him.
I am speaking from experience, you will get to the point in your life where you are happy while single. When you seek God Every. Single. Day. of your life those feelings of frustration will leave you. You will be so filled with joy and expectation that you won’t constantly be thinking about Mr/Mrs.right every day.
Thank you Lord for being all that we need! Lord you know our weaknesses and you are able to strengthen us in those areas. We want to see more of you in our lives, speak Lord, your servants are listening. Thank you for filling us with Joy, peace, wisdom and understanding.
In Jesus name!