Based on my title you probably have in mind the clichés that go along with the word perspective. Things like, look at the glass half full, stay focused on the positive things in your life, etc. The thing is those sayings are easier for a motivational writer to write a book about than it is to put into practice when life hits you hard.
“In my heart I just knew they were talking about me and that everybody in the office knew that I was broke and pitiful …”
Dealing with unemployment, the risk of losing your possessions, the shame, it’s hard just to wake up every morning; how do you keep the right perspective? I did it by being real with myself and real with God. Many of my prayers began with God I don’t know what’s going on and this sucks. I expressed my hurt, my anger, my pain and cried many days and nights. What I got back from God was strength to wake up the next day and I kept trudging through.
In the beginning it started with just that, trying to make it to the next day. Then it got to me facing the reality of my situation, meaning having to pick up phone calls and explaining my situation to bill collectors, some of whom I’ve worked with in the past. You couldn’t imagine the shame I felt of ex-coworkers calling me about my delinquent accounts and having to tell them everything that was going on in my life. In my heart I just knew they were talking about me and that everybody in the office knew that I was broke and pitiful. Truth is I have no idea who knew what and what they thought of me, for the most part they were very empathetic and tried to help anyway they could.
“The resilience and endurance created by pushing through even though things in the natural haven’t changed is the reward …”
Avoidance of the situations in your life adds to the pain and frustration your feeling, my experience is that it’s best to face things rather than run from them. God is magnificent that way, he doesn’t do everything for you, he waits for you to take the first step then he steps in. It wasn’t until I started taking initiative about my situation that I started feeling the pressure being lifted off my shoulders then I was able to change my perspective and focus on the good things going on in my life.
Simply thinking happy thoughts and trying to stay positive without taking initiative will leave you drained and unhappy again by the end of the day. The very beginning I went around quoting scriptures and claimed I was standing on my faith but by the next morning I woke up worn out from being restless all night. Though taking initiative might not change your situation right away, point in case I’m still unemployed, it does change something inside of you. The resilience and endurance created by pushing through even though things in the natural haven’t changed is the reward.
I have a positive perspective about my situation and my life now because I did the work. I made sure to get up everyday facing whatever the day brought me, I kept myself wrapped up in God’s word, I worshipped and craved his presence. Things changing externally mean nothing if things don’t change internally. Pick yourself up and take small steps towards facing things you’ve been avoiding. Celebrate your accomplishments no matter how small they are. Do what you can do within your power.
You are fearfully and wonderfully made, for God to say that about you it has to be because he planted something deep inside of you that this world needs. Do yourself a favor and devote each day to find out what that thing is and how he wants you to use your gift.